How To Get Your Husband Back After Separation Steps

How to Get Your Husband Back After Separation Steps

Men don’t understand the desire of a woman wanting to get her husband back, especially if she expelled him by herself. However, at that moment, the woman was influenced by her emotions, not logic. She dismisses her man not because she wants to get rid of him, but because she wants him to stay. Nevertheless, the man finally goes and the woman feels loneliness, resentment, jealousy, fear, uncertainty, and the desire to get him back.

In fact, the desire to get one’s husband back is quite normal. The woman doesn’t think that her husband made a conscious choice when he left because she believes that he only can choose her and children. However, men don’t understand the ladies’ logic. Males and females are different. Thus, they often don’t understand each other in ordinary situations.

Get Your Husband Back With The Help Of The Estrangement Method

The effectiveness of this approach lies in the desire of the man to come back to you. He will make this decision by himself because he will realize the value of family and marriage.

The essence of this method is reflected in its name – your husband should be estranged from you if you want to get him back. This method can only be effective in the case when a spouse loves you, or at least feels indifferent, even though he left you for another woman. Otherwise, it is impossible to get your husband back with the help of this particular technique. It also won’t work if your husband only loves your children, not you. The method is not intended for using children as bait.

How does this approach work? If you want to get him back, you should pull away from him. But what does it mean?

  1. Don’t call your husband. Don’t send him SMS, messages in social media, letters, or even postcards. Needless to say, you shouldn’t try to meet him by accident after he’s off work. Don’t attempt to influence him or his lover.
  2. If your husband comes to see the children, do not communicate with him. It is better to go somewhere when he is in your house, at least go to the neighbor’s or to another room, but you shouldn’t forbid him to come.
  3. Explain to your children that if their father asks about you, they shouldn’t answer.
  4. Tell your husband that he can only call or write to you when the matter concerns children. Don’t discuss any other topics with him.
  5. If he calls you, always be the first one who ends the conversation. You are always busy and don’t have time for him.
  6. Even though you want to get information about your husband, don’t let anybody tell him anything about you, especially if they are your common friends or his relatives because they will tell your man about your reaction. This way, he will be sure that you pulling away from him. What is more important is that such behavior will help you to estrange from him emotionally. This is an essential condition when using the successful method.
  7. Avoid thinking about your man. Distract from these thoughts by any means. If it is absolutely unbearable, you can have 15 minutes per day when you can think about him, but don’t spend this time crying. You can use simple love magic, such as prayer, to get him back to your family. It doesn’t matter whether you believe in magic or not, but this ritual will distract you from suffering and you will spend 15 minutes doing a useful activity. However, if you can forbid yourself from thinking about your husband completely, it will be even betterr.
  8. If you meet your husband by accident, just tell him “hello” and get out of there. You are always in a hurry and don’t have time for him.
  9. .The first sign of the successful use of the method will be in the attempts of your husband to talk to you. You should refuse him. If it leads to his dissatisfaction and scandals which are initiated by him, it is even better!
  10. Continue using the strategy of estrangement, be active, go to the cinema and parties with your friends, do sports, have fun, and relax. To avoid thinking about your husband, spend more time with your children. Make your life full of different events so you will not have a minute to think about him.

What Is The Result?

If you act in accordance to the tactics mentioned above, your husband will finally find a way to talk to you. He will feel alone and miss you and that’s why he will want to come back. It also may happen that his lover will be annoyed with the indecisiveness of her new man. She will expel him asking him to choose between her and you. Usually, in this case, the final decision is not made in favor of the other woman.

In contrast to the previous attempts of your man to talk to you, you shouldn’t avoid the last serious conversation with him. It will be a very difficult conversation, probably with scandals and crying. Your husband will ask your permission to come back. You will allow him, but only on your terms. This conversation is the final and the most crucial step in getting him back. Therefore, you should behave accordingly.

Please watch this video, before you continue reading:

What Happens With Your Husband When He Has Moved Onto Another Woman? (The Situation Through The Husband’s Eyes)

So, your husband finally made the decision to stay with another woman. In the process of adjusting to the life with a new lady, he will go through the standard stages:

  • The Stage Of Euphoria

Everything seems to be perfect for your husband. He has made a final decision and moved towards a new and happy life full of enjoyment. At least, he believes so. His lover is also happy because she has won her prize. Therefore, she demonstrates that the man hadn’t made a mistake when he had chosen her instead of his wife. She prepares him breakfast in bed and the most delicious dinners. However, she can’t behave like this forever. At this point, you shouldn’t even try to split up her and your man.

The only disappointing thing which every husband who has moved on to another woman expects is the persistent attempts of his wife to get him back. She begs him to come back for the sake of the children and tells that she will forgive everything. Moreover, she can even try to attack his lover.

Follow the method of estrangement. Therefore, nothing can darken the stage of euphoria for them, but don’t worry, it will not last forever. Usually, the stage of euphoria lasts from a few days to few months. So, be patient.

    • The stage of anxiety

Your husband felt anxiety from the very beginning when he left you, but he didn’t pay any attention to it because of euphoria. Nevertheless, sooner or later problems will appear in the relationship. Besides, the new couple is going through the process of adapting to each other. Usually, they are not ready for it, because they thought that they knew each other very well, but in fact, dating and living together are two completely different things!

The man comes to see his children with sad eyes. Also, he is unpleasantly impressed by the reaction of his wife. She lets the kids go with him for a walk but goes to another place herself. Paradoxically, when a husband leaves his wife, he doesn’t think that they are broken up forever. He thinks that he can come back any time he wants. That’s why the behavior of his wife is an unpleasant surprise for him. He begins to realize that he has no chance to come back. He understands that this opportunity depends on the desire of his wife, not his own desires.

    • The Stage Of Action

Unlike women, men usually don’t doubt; they act. Your husband starts his attempts to discuss with you the possibility of him coming back. Initially, these conversations are not specific. He intends to find out whether there is any chance for him to come back in the future when he is bored with his lover. In other words, the man wants to restore his confidence that no matter what is going on, he is in control of the situation. Most women make the biggest mistake on this stage. They start to cry and beg the man to come back. As a result, the husband, who is very satisfied with such behavior and reaction, quietly continues to live with his lover.

Be sure to follow the tactics of estrangement. You deny any discussions, answering that “his actions speak louder than words.” The man starts to understand the irreversibility of his actions, but slowly. As it was mentioned above, when the man decides to leave his family and to spend his life with another woman, he still thinks that he can come back at any time.

    • The Stage Of Despair

When the husband realizes that his attempts to talk to his wife are unsuccessful, he begins to feel despair. He tries to meet her “by accident,” sends messages, asks for information about her from her friends and relatives, but in vain. He sees his wife from a different perspective. She became a calm, independent, and confident woman who can live without him very well. The husband starts to feel unreasonably jealousy. He continues to have sex with the other woman, but it doesn’t seem to be so good anymore.

At this stage, the man even starts to imagine his wife during sex with the lover. This is because apart from the spiritual alienation, he feels a physical and sexual connection. He even may try to persuade you to have sex with him using traditional methods, as well as new ones. For example, he will try to convince you to have sex with him because you need it and because of health benefits. However, you should refuse all of these proposals.

At the peak of despair, the husband dreams only about one thing – getting you back. Therefore, he arranges a meeting, which you can’t refuse, because he thought of everything and there is no way to escape. Now it is time to have the final conversation.

    • The Final Conversation

It seems odd, but the man who wants to come back and who begs to be forgiven of his cheating has his own terms based on which he can come back. It is the nature of men. Most women accept these conditions and even admit that they blame themselves for his cheating. What a terrible mistake they are making!

According to the estrangement method, you must demonstrate the firmness of your character, even in this stressful moment. You don’t accept his conditions. On the contrary, you have your own, clear and precise terms. It’s a surprising reaction for him! He expected you to cry, reproach him, and explain everything. It’s the most critical moment in getting your husband back with our method. If your husband really wants to come back to you, your children, and family life, he will accept all your conditions. Of course, he will try to bargain because he is a man and he can’t react to the ultimatum of his wife quietly, but if he won’t accept your terms at the end, don’t give him any more chances and file for divorce!

When your husband passes through all of the stages mentioned above, he will completely change his attitude to you. He will understand that he can’t cheat because he will lose you forever. The more effort he applied to come back to you, the more he will know that he doesn’t want to leave you again.

What Happens With His Lover? (The Situation Through The Lover’s Eyes)

So the husband finally left his wife and moved in with his lover and she thinks, he will be with her forever. From this moment, the stage of euphoria begins.

  • The Stage Of Euphoria

At this phase, the lover is very happy because she has won her lovely man. She enjoys the time they have together and applies maximum efforts to keep him. The mistress tries to be the best in everything – in sex, cooking, entertainment, or creating an atmosphere of warmth and love. She adores her man and surrounds him with love. At the stage of euphoria, she forgives all of his shortcomings – inattention, rudeness, and negativity, because she understands that he is suffering because he misses his children and family atmosphere, not his wife. This is where the stage of understanding begins.

    • The Stage Of Understanding

The mistress wasn’t prepared for this phase. After a while, she notices that the relationship is not so passionate anymore. The problems start to appear. Her man mentions his ex-wife and children during the conversation more and more often.
Some men share their feelings with lovers, explaining that the reaction of the wife hurt them. Others hide their feelings, and the mistress can only guess that the man is suffering. Anyway, the lover realizes that the fight with the wife is not finished. At this moment, most women make a mistake. They think that if the wife doesn’t take any action, it means that she doesn’t need him, or that she accepted the fact that she has lost her husband forever. The last version is the most common because it explains her indifferent behavior.

    • The Stage Of Fight

When the mistress sees that her loved one is still thinking and caring about his wife, she decides to fight against her. The most foolish women call to the wife, trying to meet with her to discuss the topic: “Leave him alone, he’s mine!” Moreover, the most courageous lovers even try to destroy the wife’s car. The forums for women are full of these stories. The wife can only wonder: “What else does his lover needs? The man is hers and I’m not even trying to get him back!”

Smarter mistresses focus their attention on the man instead of his wife. They do everything possible – buy the sexiest underwear, change their hairstyle, and change their image overall. They dance erotic dances, take the man to museums and exhibitions, and go abroad for vacation.

The main point of the estrangement method is that the more you pull away from your man, the more he wants to come back to you. He sees his wife in his dreams and imagines her during the sex. Furthermore, he might even call his lover the name of his wife.

    • The Stage Of Ultimatum: “Me Or She!”

Not every lover decides to use this strong and dangerous weapon as the ultimatum. It is entirely useless in two cases – when it is too early and when it is too late. Usually, the mistress delivers the ultimatum too early. In this case, the man will always choose his lover because there is no clarity in his relationship with his wife. However, it is not an obstacle for him to leave his lover later on.

    • The Stage of Waiting

Waiting seems to be the safest option. That’s why it is used more often than other actions. Indeed, why should she be worried? Her loved one lives with her, they have perfect sex at least once a day, he tells her the words of love, and brings the salary home to her, not to his spouse, who is indifferent to him. And suddenly, he leaves her and moves back with his wife! He went to see his children, as usual, and stayed forever!


As you can see, all actions of the lover only increase the power of the estrangement method. In fact, if she doesn’t know how to behave, she will never know the correct set of action to take which will help her to win the man. In any case, the wife will win. If the husband does not come back to her, she will overcome her dependency towards him in the process of estrangement. She will be able to start a new life and find new love. The mistress is always the loser – even if the man stayed with her, he would feel unhappy and unconfident because he has lost the most important fight of his life. More than likely, he will leave his lover and end up living alone.

The Final Conversation

So the time for the final and the most important conversation has come. You can’t keep the distance anymore. He will initiate the conversation and moreover, he will conduct it in such a way that you will have no chance to escape. This discussion will be unexpected; therefore, you should prepare in advance.

When Should You Start Preparation For The Final Conversation?

Don’t rush into it. The best time to prepare for the discussion would be at the stage when your man attempts to talk to you and tries to explain that something will become more often. You even may start to predict that today or tomorrow he will call again, or will try to initiate the discussion with you when he comes to see the children. It’s a signal for you that it is time to determine the requirements for your husband.

Your Requirements

You should think about it very carefully. Divide your requirements to the specific points, but don’t form too many, because they will mix and it will be hard for both of you to implement them into practice. Don’t let emotions control you! Don’t tell him, “I want you to love me like you used to when we first married!” It is very easy for men to give this promise, but in reality, it is impossible to prove that they will do it. Your requirements must be material. It should be everything you want your husband to do or what he hasn’t done before. For example, ask him to do to start helping out around the house. Or maybe you want him to behave a certain way? For example, you would be happy if he comes home after work on time or to grab the children from school or kindergarten. You probably want to go on a vacation alone once a year. It’s your chance to change your life for the better, so use it!

Keep in mind that your husband has no right to have his own requirements or conditions. If he starts to argue with you, just stop the conversation. Don’t listen to his claims and excuses. He cheated on you and left you for another woman, not vice versa. It is normal that you don’t want to restore the relationship if he wouldn’t change! Tell him, “You have to behave as I said. I’ll act the way I want to. Don’t like it? Get out”

The Punishment For Disobedience

Tell him what you will do if he will not behave in agreement with your requirements. Basically, the consequence is a divorce. If you are not firm enough, he will feel it, and in a few months, he will more than likely cheat again..

Once he accepted all of your requirements, it is time to discuss his relationship with the lover. The point here is that he must leave her right now. If he has any clothes at her place, tell him to leave it there. He can get them later. It’s the most important condition, “You come back now, or don’t come back at all.” Don’t let him explain anything to his lover and don’t give him any time to settle things with her. These actions will not lead to anything good.

What To Do If Your Husband Is Indecisive?

If your husband shows indecision when you tell him about your requirements, it means that he is insincere in his intentions to start all over again. Most likely he wants everything to be as before – he lives with wife and has sex with another woman. By the way, it is the most common reason why the man wants to come back home. His lover is not able to take care of the man as the wife did. In this case, you should stop the dialogue and expel him. Don’t step back from your position and don’t show your weakness to the cheater.

It may happen that during the use of the estrangement method, you will suddenly realize that you don’t actually want him to come back anymore. It’s perfect! It means that you are opened for new relationships full of love, care, honesty, and faithfulness to each other. Sometimes, this insight comes during the final conversation when you are very close to getting him back. It takes you to a new level of personal development accompanied by a unique and very pleasant state of mind.

Remember, it doesn’t matter that your initial goal was to get him back. You do not have to do it after he cheated! More than likely, you will not be happy together. Therefore, if you are sure that you want to break up, do it without hesitation!


Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *